Blog on Swinging, Open Relationships & Polyamory

I Love Friend Sex

January 25, 2018 | by Kat Stark | Blog

The social effort required to get to know people well enough to learn if I'd want to sleep with them, plus all the time that goes into learning someone's body and teaching them about mine is daunting.

TAGS: Bex, FWB, Flick, anxiety, communication, compersion, female ejaculation, g-spot, geek, group sex, nJoy Pure Wand, non-monogamy, open relationship, queer, relationships, safer sex, sex, sex toys, squirting, strap-on, stress, swinging, switch, top, vulnerability

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Podcast Episode 18: Fantasies

January 13, 2018 | with "Serious" Flick Morrison & Kat Stark | Podcasts

Fantasizing is big part of most healthy sex lives. We fantasize about things we’d like to have done to us and/or what we’d like to do to others.

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My Swingset Takes Desire 2017 Moments

December 26, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Swingset Takes Over Desire is truly is an incredible experience and I hope someday to return and overwrite the difficult memories with a whole lot more sexy fun.

TAGS: BDSM, Desire Resort, Flick, Mal, Ophilia, Peach, Will, anxiety, bisexual, bottom, exhibitionist, feels, fuckation, non-monogamy, open relationship, orgy, polyamory, queer, relationships, sex, spontaneous orgasms, strap-on, stress, swinging, sybian, travel

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But We Scheduled This Months Ago

November 2, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

You've all gotten together after much planning and discussions of fantasies you all want fulfilled but when you get to the moment, people aren't always up for it and it's important to know that it's okay to opt-out.

TAGS: Bex, Elle, Flick, Will, anxiety, bisexual, communication, dating, expectations, feels, insecurity, intimacy, masturbation, non-monogamy, open relationship, play party, poly, polyamory, relationships, sex, sexuality, sexy vacations, stress, swinging, threesome, travel, vulnerability

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The Lonely Pervert

October 19, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Breaching the walls of decorum and what we 'should' talk about is one of my favourite things and I revel in the friendships that include that element.

TAGS: Flick, Iris, anxiety, coming out, communication, expectations, feels, infidelity, insecurity, intimacy, non-monogamy, polyamory, queer, relationships, sex, slut shame, stress, vulnerability

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Attachment Styles: Turns Out I'm Not An Emotionless Automaton

August 10, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Monogamous people usually only need to worry about figuring out one of these but we ethically non-monogamous folks tend get multiple styles in multiple relationships. Whee! So lucky!

TAGS: Flick, anxiety, attachment, avoidant, bisexual, communication, dating, feels, growing pains, insecurity, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly, polyamory, relationships, stress, vulnerability

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When Love Gets in the Way

July 13, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I have been guilty of hanging onto things for far too long that weren't good for me or the other person because I loved them. We weren't in the same place mentally and emotionally.

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Podcast Episode 12: Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions

July 1, 2017 | with "Serious" Flick Morrison & Kat Stark | Podcasts

Not every relationship lasts forever--Whaaa?--turns out that happily ever after was kind of a fraudulent bill of goods we were sold as kids watching Disney movies. Relationships end or sometimes transition into subtly or entirely different forms.