Blog on Swinging, Open Relationships & Polyamory

Our First Swinger Date

June 29, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Eventually the game got a sexier and we all started having to do little dares that got more and more intimate - a lap dance here, some inner thigh kissing there.

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Podcast Episode 11: Sexy Vacations w Cooper Beckett

May 25, 2017 | with Kat Stark & "Serious" Flick Morrison | Podcasts

Going to different cities and countries is always amazing, but going to different places and having sex with people: that takes the amazing factor up to a whole new level.

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Would people still take us seriously? What if we're trying to run in serious polyamory circles that frown on casual sex? As much as I want to fully embrace my sexy slut self, I still have some serious discomfort around the word.

TAGS: FWB, Flick, Iris, angst, anxiety, boundaries, communication, exhibitionism, feels, insecurity, non-monogamy, open relationship, polyamory, sex, slut shame, stress, threesome, vulnerability

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Disconnected: When Your Partner Travels With Another

May 3, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

As I watched Flick pack the afternoon before he left, I started to feel the pangs as it really hit me that he was going on this adventure without me. It felt really weird that he was going to be having big new experiences on this trip with someone else.

TAGS: Flick, Iris, angst, anxiety, communication, compersion, expectations, feels, first time, growing pains, insecurity, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, polyamory, relationships, stress, travel, vulnerability

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Podcast Episode 10: Female Relationships Part Two

April 21, 2017 | with Kat Stark | Podcasts

Kat & guest Dawn Ardent examine our experiences of public bisexuality through exhibitionism, supporting those more marginalized than us in the new political climate, and the pros and cons of doing the emotional labour in our complex array of relationships.

TAGS: Dawn Ardent, Elle, Flick, Iris, Will, bisexual, communication, exhibitionism, fuckation, jealousy, non-monogamy, open relationship, pansexual, podcast, polyamory, queer, stress, travel

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Outsider Looking In

February 24, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

What's tricky is that even in a group of people who really get you, have lived similar experiences, have similar outlooks on life, if you're like me, you still don't necessarily feel like you fit in.

TAGS: Flick, angst, anxiety, autonomy, avoidant, communication, dating, expectations, feels, insecurity, needs, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly, polyamory, stress

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Getting Sultry

February 10, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

We eventually had a very large audience for our varied combinations of bodies and silicone or bio cock in multiple orifices.

TAGS: Declan, Dot, FWB, Flick, Iris, Som, anal, bisexual, dildo, exhibitionist, flogging, group sex, harness, non-monogamy, open relationship, orgy, pansexual, play party, polyamory, public sex, queer, sex, sex toys, shenanniversary, strap-on, voyeur

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Everything Must Change

December 20, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Sometimes a relationship doesn't work the way you think it will. Sometimes you go into something expecting it to look and feel a certain way, travel a certain path, and as you go, it turns out that is not what you (or the other person(s)) wanted after all.